It can seem hopeless to try to save your marriage while you are going through a divorce. If your partner doesn't want to save the wedding, it may seem even harder to do all of these things. But it can be done by staying away from certain mistakes and taking certain steps. I'd like to share with you some of the things I learned when I was in your shoes.
A few years ago, I had to deal with a divorce, which was something I had never thought would happen to me. Even if I had been, I'm not sure I would have handled it any differently now. So, I really didn't know what to do, what to say, or how to act. So, like most people, I made a bunch of common mistakes that only made things worse. I made my spouse pull away from me even more, and it looked like we would have to get a divorce.
When things like this happen, most people aren't trained or ready with a set of instructions. Most people have been let down by traditional marriage counseling. In reality, though, it only works about 20% of the time. Most of the people who say they are marriage counselors are really just trained in character counseling and don't know how to fix a marriage. They can teach you how to talk and how to work on yourself, but they have no idea how to build a strong marriage and keep it that way.
So what should we do? Well, I almost gave up, but then I heard about a movement plan that involved replacing negative feelings with stronger, more creative ones. I learned about specific actions I could take and things I could say and do right away to start making a difference in my marriage. I also learned about some of the most common mistakes people make and how to avoid them. The great thing about this method is that it works even if your partner doesn't do anything.